According to Gary Chapman, there are five general ways or love languages that people use to communicate (give and receive) love. These are: acts of service, gift-giving, physical touch, quality time, and words of affirmation. Apparently, every human being has a specific primary love language.

Women are generally more cognizant of love languages and their own primary love language. My observation is that their primary love languages change as it suits them, hence fulfilling the Luganda saying that goes “wekyusizza mukiting’embazzi” to mean one who is unreliable and changes their colors often. A young man will therefore quickly learn that every woman has five primary love languages – not one. Hahaha! One young lady at Church called Robin was honest to say, “We are complicated,” when I raised this issue.

I did not mean to discuss ladies and their love complexities. I want you to know that just as all human beings want to be loved, so does God. And just as every person has a primary love language, God also has one. However, it is note-worthy that God’s primary love language is not any of the five listed above. God definitely delights in acts of service, receiving gifts like sweet worship, being touched, us spending time with Him, and words of affirmation. However, none of these is His primary love language according to the Scriptures. God’s primary love language is “obeying His commandments”. Many times in the Old Testament, God equated loving Him with keeping His commandments. That is why, when Jesus came on the scene, He clearly said that, “He who has My commandments and keeps them, it is he who loves Me . . . If anyone loves Me, he will keep My word . . . He who does not love Me does not keep My words” (John 14:21, 23, 24).

A dream which Joan Isoke had on 13th June 2019 clearly demonstrates that obeying God’s commandments is the primary way He wants us to express our love to Him. In this dream, Joan found herself in a church building. In there was Rick Joyner who did not want to be interrupted because he was deep in prayer. Joan wanted Rick to explain to her how she could love the Lord with all her heart. After waiting for some time and realizing that Rick was not about to finish praying, she touched his shoulder. He immediately got up and asked her, “Joan, do you want to know how to love the Lord with all your heart?” She replied, “Yes.” Then while holding a Bible in his hands, Rick said to her, “Just do what this Bible says and you will have loved the Lord with all your heart." Hallelujah!

Therefore my brothers and sisters, we should continuously read our Bibles to know and to remind ourselves of God’s commandments, and to keep them. Doing so will communicate to God that we really love Him because that is His primary love language. We should also spend time communing with Him to hear (in order to obey) what He would want us to do for those things that are not explicitly written in the Scriptures. God will surely feel loved when we do this because, again, obeying Him is His primary love language.

God bless you.